The Naked Marriage Assessment is just what you need. Common challenges like communication, finances, sex and intimacy, infidelity, religious and cultural differences, and in-law issues can threaten the stability of your marriage. The issues you identify may only scratch the surface. Our marriage coach will explore the roots of your challenges to offer insight and guidance.
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Understanding Your Relationship’s Viability
Is There Enough Fuel in Your Relationship Tank?
The purpose of our assessment is to guide you through a deep, reflective process that examines multiple facets of yourself, your partner, and your shared relationship. The goal is to determine whether there is enough “fuel in the tank” to save your marriage or if the data points to a different path. This assessment won’t tell you explicitly whether to “stay” or “go.” Instead, it provides you with the information needed to make a data-driven decision with our support.
Stepping into Your Partner’s Shoes
When completing the assessment alone, you’ll evaluate yourself while also imagining your partner’s perspective. Think about how they view things and make decisions. By doing so, you can gain a clearer understanding of whether your relationship is sustainable or if it’s something you might want to end. Your outcome will depend on various factors: the history of your relationship, the compatibility between you and your partner, and any trauma you’ve both experienced. If you decide to stay, the assessment will shed light on what’s missing, what needs to change, and the challenges ahead. On the other hand, it may reveal an imbalance that signals the end of the relationship, highlighting deal-breakers that no longer align with your needs and values.
Breaking Down the Tests: The Core of the Assessment
The assessment is structured around several tests:
Personality Test: This test covers five key traits—agreeableness, conscientiousness, emotional dysregulation, openness, and extroversion/introversion. It’s a strong indicator of compatibility or potential triggers. Large differences in these scores between partners often signal an unsustainable relationship, particularly if both score high on emotional dysregulation.
Love Languages Test: Understanding each other’s love languages is crucial. If a couple’s primary love languages are different and there is no common “bridging” language, the relationship becomes complicated. Similar to the personality test, significant differences here can lead to challenges.
Gottman Assessment Protocol: We have customized the Gottman Assessment protocol to include facets we’ve identified in our 15 years of experience with divorce and separation. This part of the assessment examines relationship history, shared meanings, conflict styles, and overall negative sentiment.
Understanding the Results: What They Mean for Your Relationship
The outcome of the assessment is not a simple “yes” or “no” to staying together. Instead, it provides insights into what it would take to save the relationship, including the skills needed, the weaknesses present, and what you would need to work on. Alternatively, the results may highlight significant imbalances or deal breakers that suggest the relationship may not be sustainable in the long term.
Online Test Costing: One online test costing which you take and then take on behalf of your spouse.
Manual Test: One manual test you take which we send you and you send the results through for yourself and then imagine what your spouse would say so you have her results from your perspective reflected in the test also.
Oral History Call:
One call which consists of questions associated to an oral history of your relationship – we administer this test manually via semi structured interview.
Questionnaire Call: One call which encompasses questions across 7 questionnaires – we administer this test manually via semi structured interview.
Final Results Discussion: The full results and conclusions of all of these tests are discussed with you on the final third call which will help give you data which supports your choice of whether or not to stay in your marriage.
What You Can Do After the Assessment?
Making the Tough Decision: To Stay or Leave?
After completing the assessment, you may realize that saving the marriage would require extensive work—6-8 months or more of hard effort. The question then becomes: Are both you and your partner willing to put in the necessary effort? Or does the assessment reveal that too many areas are misaligned, making it impossible to continue?
Support at Every Step
No matter what decision you arrive at after completing the assessment—whether to stay and work on the relationship or to part ways—you don’t have to go through it alone. We’re here to support and help you through every step of the process.
Ready to Find Clarity?
This is a very comprehensive assessment that will give you insight and data to help you make the decision to stay and work on your relationship, or to bring closure. Regardless of what your decision is after completing the assessment we are here to support and help.
Our marriage assessment service stands out by utilizing a comprehensive approach that goes beyond general evaluations. Unlike traditional assessments, we employ “The 8 Areas of Health of a Marriage,” providing a nuanced understanding of various dimensions crucial to marital well-being. This tailored framework enables our experienced marriage coaches to delve deeper into specific aspects such as communication, intimacy, and conflict resolution. By focusing on these key areas, we ensure a more personalized and insightful analysis for couples.
The 8 areas of health of a marriage
We meticulously evaluate eight crucial areas to determine the viability of your marriage, carefully examining whether it has the potential for salvage or has already traversed the difficult terrain of a relationship rift.
Commitment in a marriage involves the level of dedication and devotion each partner brings to the relationship. It’s about asking whether both individuals are genuinely committed to making the marriage work, even in the face of challenges. Assessing commitment helps gauge the willingness of both partners to invest time, effort, and emotions into the marriage. It provides insights into the long-term viability of the relationship.
Compatibility assesses how well partners can work together in harmony. It explores whether their personalities, values, and life goals align or if there are fundamental gaps that need attention. Understanding compatibility is essential for predicting how smoothly a couple can navigate life together. It sheds light on potential sources of conflict and areas where adjustments may be needed.
The “system” refers to the structure and dynamics within a relationship. This includes roles, decision-making processes, and the division of responsibilities between partners. Examining the relationship system provides insights into how well the couple collaborates, communicates, and shares responsibilities. A well-functioning system is crucial for maintaining harmony and fostering growth.
The History of a relationship reflects the journey a couple has taken together. It involves revisiting highs and lows, rehashing old arguments, and reflecting on major life events to gain perspective. Exploring the history of the relationship helps uncover patterns, understand resilience, and identify factors that contribute to the current dynamics within the marriage.
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. It involves assessing how well partners communicate, feel heard and understood, and whether any barriers hinder honest and open conversation. Evaluating communication highlights areas for improvement, enabling couples to enhance their ability to express thoughts, feelings, and needs effectively.
Before understanding a partner, it’s crucial to have self-awareness. This involves testing emotional intelligence and awareness of personal wants, desires, and triggers within the context of the relationship. Self-awareness contributes to healthier communication and conflict resolution. It empowers individuals to bring a more grounded and informed self to the marriage.
This area delves into the capacity to empathize with a spouse, genuinely understand their perspective, requirements, and feelings. It emphasizes making a meaningful connection through improved communication. Assessing understanding of the partner fosters empathy and mutual comprehension, strengthening the emotional connection within the marriage.
Chemistry is the invisible yet vital factor that sparks and maintains the romantic aspect of a relationship. It includes both physical attraction and emotional connection. Evaluating chemistry helps gauge the level of passion and connection between partners, contributing to the overall vibrancy and satisfaction within the marriage.
Ignoring problems in your marriage can lead to issues for yourself and the health of the individuals within the partnership. Failure to get the right support can leave you vulnerable to mental and physical risks which include:
20
%
RISK HEART DISEASE
Data: Web MD study conducted in 2019 – check statistics here: www.webmd.com
23
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RISK OF DEATH
Data: National Center for Biotechnology Information www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
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MARRIED COUPLES EXPERIENCE VIOLENCE WHEN DISTRESSED
Data: Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies
www.abct.org
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