When Stop Making Effort
Marriage Coaching

This Is What Happens When You Stop Making An Effort…

By Adèle Théron

How did you picture relationships when you were a kid? Did you imagine the fairy tale of falling in love, making a commitment and living happily ever after? If so, join the club. Disney has a lot to answer for when it comes to preparing kids for real life. Stories about falling in love always end with "I do" - but we all know that's where the hard work begins. Relationships need nurture and care; not just in the first flush of romance, when you're falling in love, or on your honeymoon. Forever. Relationships are hard work,...

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Addiction Killing Your Marriage
Marriage Coaching

Is addiction killing your marriage?

By Adèle Théron

I talk a lot about healing from the trauma of a failed marriage, or from the painful things that you and your partner have said and done to each other in the past. But you know what no one can heal from? Injuries that are currently being inflicted on you. Wounds that have salt pouring into them, right now. If you or your partner is suffering from a serious addiction, you need to address this before you can start to heal at all. That’s because, until the addiction is brought back under control, frankly you might as...

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Naked Marriage - Cling-On-Marriage
Marriage Coaching

Cling on – or let go? Pt2

By Adèle Théron

In part 1 of this series, I talked about how all humans have a basic need to feel safe and secure, and how to make sure that you offer that to your partner in ways that are healthy and not controlling or counterproductive. But this is only the tip of the iceberg. Or, in Maslovian terms, the base of the pyramid. To recap, this is Maslov’s Hierarchy of Needs:   Okay, now let’s move on…   Psychological needs. The...

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Naked Marriage - Cling on to marriage
Marriage Coaching

Cling on – or let go? Pt1

By Adèle Théron

They take no notice of me. They don’t support me or show any interest in my job, or my passions, or my interests. They don’t listen. They seem bored when we’re together. I don’t feel they’re proud to be with me. They don’t call or text to see how I’m doing. They’re always too busy to talk. I feel I’m last on their list of priorities. It’s like we’re not even a couple. I feel suffocated. They won’t let me breathe I feel suffocated. They won’t let me breathe. They’re jealous. They want to know where I am...

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