When Stop Making Effort

This Is What Happens When You Stop Making An Effort…

How did you picture relationships when you were a kid? Did you imagine the fairy tale of falling in love, making a commitment and living happily ever after? If so, join the club. Disney has a lot to answer for when it comes to preparing kids for real life. Stories about falling in love always end with "I do" - but we all know that's where the hard work begins. Relationships need nurture and care; not just in the first flush of romance, when you're falling in love, or on your honeymoon. Forever. Relationships are hard work,...

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Addiction Killing Your Marriage

Is addiction killing your marriage?

I talk a lot about healing from the trauma of a failed marriage, or from the painful things that you and your partner have said and done to each other in the past. But you know what no one can heal from? Injuries that are currently being inflicted on you. Wounds that have salt pouring into them, right now. If you or your partner is suffering from a serious addiction, you need to address this before you can start to heal at all. That’s because, until the addiction is brought back under control, frankly you might as...

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Naked Marriage - Cling-On-Marriage

Cling On – or let go? Pt3

Okay, we’ve now talked about how your relationship dynamic affects your basic needs to feel safe and secure Part One and your psychological need to feel loved and valued Part Two. But what about the top of the pyramid: self-fulfilment?   Self-fulfilment In the grand scheme of things, at least for people from most walks of life, the chance to feel ‘fulfilled’ is a pretty new idea. In the past, a lot of couples would largely have settled for security, fidelity and companionship. But in the last 50 years or so, all...

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Trailing spouse depression

More expat partners than ever are discovering that ‘Trailing Spouse Depression’ is a real and profound issue. Often causing irreconcilable challenges and strains on their relationships. We take a look at what they are, and what can be done about them… The world is increasingly becoming a more multicultural place. The advancement of technology and the Internet has made it simpler for companies to expand and take advantage of a global market. This, coupled with more affordable and frequent flights, means that it’s become possible to work competently all over the world. As such, there...

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